Roll on : Mature enough?

Apr 14, 2012

Assalammualaikum and hi :)

   Have you face a situation where you just hope that a person would act mature so to please you?

   Maturity is not only gain by age but it involve how you can think on a particular topic. We can examine maturity by simply debate on a topic and from the point given by a person we can judge their level of maturity.

  Studying at matriculation have gain me the opportunity to know lots of people with lots of personality. One peculiar thing I observe is a people can be mature and not mature in the same time. I am a very sensitive person and for me a people can be less not giving me pain by act mature. I look up maturity very much.

   So, how can a so sensitive girl like me to face these people? That is the trickiest part. Before, I let myself to be drowned by the problem and end up hoping "Ya Allah!! let this over with!". I simply want to run.

   But now I learn from my friend that I can let these crush me. So I learn step by step. Now I know that for me, only experience or a thorough thinking process would help. I have done some stupid act and learn from there so I can deal with these immatureness. That is experience and of course more but I want to emphasis on mistake here. Some experience (mistake) you can gain from others. Know people and their history and learn that too!

   A thorough thinking here is based only on IF what will be better?  At this point I always be redha with everything that may resulted from my choice. But before of course I will try my best to make sure I have made a the best choice ever. Follow up with doa and tawakkal.

  Lastly, one thing that I realise is that we can never regret as everything that we have go through mean something and is just that way. No way around. Never ask to turn back time. Allah have choose that and who are you to say no?


Roll on : F.R.I.E.N.D.S.H.I.P

Apr 4, 2012

 Assalammualaikum and hello!

 Fight for you
Respect you
Inspire you
Encourage you
Need you
Deserve you

        Supposely the acronym above is for word friendS where S would stand for save you. But i di not want to write it as for this kind of friend, it rarely exist in a person life more than 1.

Get it?

 Life being great now. Only 12 days more for my final exam.

I got some problem with my so called friend. I did not like my 'tone' of writing because it just make you, the readers, feels like I am blaming and hating them. Yes. I am. But I am denying it so I can change because this feeling kills my heart.

Islam teaching , as it is a religion that covers every aspect of life also has its own way of defining a friend. I read kitab Ihya Ulumuddin by Imam Al Ghazali. There is this one clear explanation on what friend truly are.

Alqamah pernah memberikan wasiat kepada puteranya dan ia berkata, "Wahai anakku, jikalau engkau berasa perlu utk bersahabat dgn seseorang maka pilihlah yg mempunyai sifat-sifat ini, iaitu jikalau engkau melayaninya, ia suka melindungimu,jikalau engkau bersahabat dgnnya, ia akan merupakan hiasan bg dirimu, dan jikalau engkau dlm keadaan kekurangan, ia mencukupi keperluan mu

Pilihla seorang sahabat yg apabila engkau menghulurkan tanganmu utk memberikan jasa baik atau bantuanmu ia suka menerima dgn rasa terharu, jikalau ia melihat kebaikan dari dirimu, ia suka menghitungnya dan menganggapnya sangat berguna, sedangkan jikalau ia mengetahui keburukan dari dirimu ia menutupnya.

 Pilihla sahabat yg jikalau engkau meminta sesuatu darinya, pasti ia memberi, jikalau engkau diam ia menyapamu dahulu dan jikalau ada sesuatu kesukaran dan kesedihan yg menimpa dirimu ia membantu dan meringankan serta menghiburkanmu.

Pilihla sahabat yg jikalau engkau berkata-kata ia membenarkan ucapanmu dan selalu mempercayainya, jikalau engkau menghadapi sesuatu persoalan yg berat ia membantumu menghadapinya dan jikalau engkau berselisih faham dengannya, ia mengalah utk kepentinganmu"

A non muslim friend of me, read this, and she like joking saying this is she. This mean she look up to friendship in Islam. But one thing we need to know and I want to focus on, in Islam, we are all sisters and brothers, "kita bersaudara"

And that bond is stronger.

I want to have a good friend/saudara like this but first I want to be this kind of person to others first. There is one good tip on being a good friend to others.

Treat others, anyone, anybody, just as you want to be treated.